Interesting interview - she appears dignified and "real" while he minimises, denies and evades and oozes narcissism. Totally agree with Rachel's comment below and Tina shows there is hope and strength and recovery after domestic abuse. Sadly the abuser looks like he will never change, grow or learn. ... See MoreSee Less
Attended a lunch hosted by our sponsor, the Joanna Simpson Foundation today, announcing the Foundation's funding of a full time domestic abuse worker at The Children's Centre from January. Exciting news for the Island. We already deliver Own My Life Course in partnership with the Children's Centre, and as they develop their domestic abuse service, this partnership will develop and grow. Many thanks to the JSF for funding this vital work and for inviting Space 4Action to have a stand at the lunch, publicising our work. And thank you to the Copy Shop for producing our banners - they look great! ... See MoreSee Less
Another very important point which applies to DA as well, and the language that we use. If you haven't seen Jackson Katz's TED talk it is very good and worth seeing, meanwhile, here is a quote: ... See MoreSee Less
And here's what the professionals who attended our Own My Life Taster Day are saying about the Course:"Think it's great - up to date, easy to use, great that it includes trauma.""Very informative and the delivery of the facilitators shows an obvious deep knowledge base.""Really enjoyed it - good course, very in depth, I like the book""Really informative and helpful."A much needed course, especially on IoM"."Interesting, really helpful for those victims/survivors who are ready.""Thanks for a very relaxed approach to such a sensitive and difficult issue"."Really insightful - the course material is easy to follow and grasp"."Due to the way it's put across I feel the course will encourage engagement - often courses don't.""Course is very informative, seems good and will help victims/survivors, a lot was covered.""An awesome day! Very informative." ... See MoreSee Less
The first batch of feedback from our Own My life Taster Day for professionals has been very positive. This training day was attended by a mix of professionals across services and was a rewarding and encouraging experience. 100% of the professionals who attended the day found it met their expectations. 100% found it interesting and informative. 100% found attending was useful. All felt the day increased their knowledge (80% very much and 20% somewhat). All would recommend it to other professionals considering attending. Two people had minor suggestions for 'tweaking' content or delivery, but otherwise everyone who attended felt it was a very good day with lots of content. Thank you to all those who attended and thank you for your feedback. We will definitely run another Taster Day soon. Any professionals wishing to attend can register their interest by emailing email@example.com ... See MoreSee Less
Great Own My Life "Taster Day" for Professionals yesterday. We really enjoyed it, so good to have so much engagement, support and enthusiasm in the room. And good feed back too. We will definitely be running another of these sessions soon, so that professional services can learn about the course, why it is beneficial and how to refer. ... See MoreSee Less
We are really pleased that another session of Own My Life Course went so well, with such a lot of participation and interest from the group, and so much learning for ALL of us. Other exciting news is we are getting a new, upgraded and re-vamped website. This means that from tomorrow the website will be down for a while to allow for the change over and upgrades. Please bear with us - we think the new look website will be worth the wait! Meanwhile, we can be contacted via Facebook. Thanks for your patience and support. ... See MoreSee Less
We are so excited that yesterday's first session of the Own My Life Course Pilot at the Children's Centre went really well. An amazing group of survivors, a great group to work with and already the group has gelled with such a feeling of mutual support. Feedback has already been amazingly positive, with women already seeing the benefit of the course both for themselves and for others who they want to invite and bring along. New people can join next week, but after that the group will be closed. However, interested people can sign up for the next course, which will probably be an evening session. Well done and thank you to all those who are part of the Pilot, we are so happy that you already see why we believe this is such a good course. Thankyou to the Children's Centre for hosting and partnering; thank you to the Manx Lottery for helping to fund the Pilot. Looking forward to next week. ... See MoreSee Less
We are getting very excited that Own My Life Course is starting this Saturday, 19th September, 10am at the Children's Centre. There are places still available on this innovative course, so if you or someone you know has experienced abuse and would like to try a recovery program, where you develop your own private, personal life Journal to keep and refer to, please get in touch asap. This is a very relaxed, friendly setting where people understand and support, no one has to share their story. The course is intended to be empowering and uplifting, positive and moving forward into a new and better life. Women who have done the course have very positive feedback, saying this is "life changing" and "everyone should do this course". www.space4action.info/s4a-information-support/own-my-life/own-my-life-course/... See MoreSee Less
Mixed messages form the Courts and Media again - on the plus side this was recognised as coercive controlling behaviour, on the negative side excuses were made regarding "mental health", "insecurity", "over enthusiastic emotional commitment" and given the horrific things he sent and they impact this would have on the person receiving them, the sentence is not long enough. Also to allow in Court and to end the article with the totally minimising remark that no real harm was done (because it wasn't physical) and the only person the perpetrator harmed was himself! Unbelievable! Especially when he has a trail of similar abusive relationships and offences. Very disappointing that the newspaper should choose to end on this note of excuses and minimalisation. www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/bully-terrorised-girlfriend-with-sick-threats-and-sent-400-texts-in...... See MoreSee Less
Space 4 Action in partnership with the Children’s Centre and supported by the Manx Lottery Trust are proud and excited to offer a recovery programme for women affected by Domestic Abuse. This is delivered in two six-week blocks, starting on Saturday 19th September and takes 2 hrs per week (10am-12 noon).The Own my Life course is a new and innovative programme that builds self-esteem and self-reliance after being subjected to an abusive relationship. This course uses videos and interactive content and discussions within a safe and supportive environment.If you are interested in participating and would like to know more please either click on the link below or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org Link for women who might be interested in participating in the course:www.youtube.com/watch?v=wqT8UPYqovg&feature=emb_logoOr visit our website at www.space4action.info... See MoreSee Less
St Andrews University has said it will work with police to investigate dozens of allegations of sexual assault or rape on campus. An Instagram account called St Andrews Survivors posted over 20 allega...
""I knew that there would be a time that I wouldn't be able to cry for help or tell anybody, I just felt the need to get out and save myself..." this woman's story, "I had no existence" movingly describes the impact of living with a coercive controller, and the plight that has been many victims' lives during lockdown: www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-birmingham-52981834... See MoreSee Less
It is so important that psychological abuse and coercive control is recognised and understood - someone "behaving out of character" after entering a relationship is a red flag that their partner is influencing, manipulating, coercing and controlling them. The damage done by this type of abuse is deep and extensive, and recovery - even with good support services iin place - is likely to be slow. Here is a really important report from SafeLives: safelives.org.uk/psychological-abuse... See MoreSee Less
A mother-of-two who won an appeal battle after killing her controlling husband can inherit his estate, a judge has ruled. Sally Challen, who is in her mid-60s, was given a mandatory life sentence in 2...
Governments worldwide have imposed lockdowns to contain the coronavirus, but those same restrictions have increased the risks associated with domestic violence, especially for women, children, and LGB...
An excellent video that shows what can be done when a whole community and all services work together to say No More to Domestic Abuse. Now is the time for our Island to do something similar. The 145% rise in reporting due to Covid-19 highlights that this is a problem in our community and we can no longer bury our heads and not address it: www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsD-S5qNPxA... See MoreSee Less